THIS GUEST POST WAS WRITTEN BY CANDENCE BROOKS
I’ve always been driven to be “successful”. In grade school and college, I made good grades, got involved in organizations….you know, I did it all by the book. Then “real life” hit and I got married and had children.
Let me start by saying that I absolutely love my family; but I also love having a career. Sometimes the two clash and even when I want to appear to have it together, I just can’t!
I’m a real estate agent so I have the flexibility of setting my schedule and working from home whenever I have a sick child (or husband), need to do laundry, or shamelessly want to binge watch The Blacklist.
Admittedly, it doesn’t always work out for me to be home because I get pulled in so many directions that I just say “forget it” and end up on the couch all day. Then I can only be mad at nobody but myself because after all, I work for myself right? Yea it sounds glamorous to “be your own boss” until you have to actually put in the work.
One thing that I have learned since I started working for myself was that I have to establish one thing first…BOUNDARIES! I mean boundaries for others AND myself. I commend other moms who work and still take care of a family. I have a baby who will be one year old in February and she gives me a run for my money sometimes!
My family and friends see how much I have on my plate and ask “how do you do it? You’re always busy!” Yes, I’m always busy, but not always productive. I took about a year off from real estate to focus on having a baby and spending more time with my family.
Now that I am back working, I have learned to re-prioritize some things in my life to be more productive at home and at work.
Five tips to stay balanced (SANE)
- Family calendar. I have a dry-erase calendar on my refrigerator that I bought from Target. Each month, I write down the family appointments first and then schedule my business appointments around those dates. Since family is my priority, they get first dibs on the calendar.
- Meal planning. I try to plan out our meals a week or two in advance. This includes planning to eat out on days that are really busy.
- Support system. I don’t know what I would do without the support of family and friends. I’ve learned to let go of my pride and ask for help. I will ask someone to babysit in a heartbeat!
- Be realistic. I would love to say that all of my laundry is done and there are no dishes in my sink right now. Listen, I do good to cook almost everyday. Those clothes and dishes can wait girlfriend! Set a goal to accomplish one or two household chores a day. If your list gets too long, you’ll get overwhelmed and do nothing (at least that’s how I am).
- Create routines. Now, I’m still working on nailing this part down but my 10 year old has it down packed. Somehow I created a set routine for her and neglected myself (crazy how moms do that right?). However, I have some things that I do around the same time every day. Other times, I just have to go with the flow.
One of my closest friends has had to remind me to give myself grace. That small reminder gets me through times when I didn’t finish laundry and have to re-wash the load in the washing machine that’s been in there two days (did I mention I hate laundry?).
Either way, you’re human honey. We are not perfect.
Surround yourself with people who support you as a mom and a professional. I used to try to separate the two; but my reality is that I wear many hats and with a little bit of prayer and “come to Jesus” moments, I can be the best ME in any situation. Let’s do this ladies!
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